Robert George Kardashian was an American attorney and business man. He earned national recognition as O. J. Simpson’s defence attorney in Simpson’s 1995 murder trial. Robert Kardashian came from humble beginnings. His parents were ethnic Armenians and immigrants who worked tirelessly in a rubbish collection family business. Robert earned his way through high school, college and law school. Long before the O. J. trial he paid his dues as a hard working junior lawyer, working his way up to his eventual celebrity.

He had four children: Kourtney, Kim, Khloe and Rob. After his early death at age 59 from esophageal cancer his ex-wife Kris and their children leveraged his hard earned success to create their own faux celebrity status through the reality show Keeping up with the Kardashians. That the media informs us of, none of his children nor his ex-wife earned a degree, worked their way through hard work or contributed in any meaningful way to the world around them. They obsess over broken nails while people in their community are barely eking out an existence. They are faux “celebrities” merely because they were related to Robert Kardashian.

Faux Celebrity is a problem because it focuses on feeding one’s ego through Facebook postings and Insagram snapshots rather than through genuine accomplishments and contributions. Self esteem comes not through social media “celebrity” but from working hard, being a good person, contributing to one’s friends, families and communities and earning success through hard work.

The real celebrities of this world are often unacknowledged heroes. They are the people who care for others just because it is the right and honourable thing to do; because it is what makes us the highest versions of ourselves. It’s the people who bring food to an elderly neighbour. Or the person who volunteers at the local food bank. The parent who sits beside their child when they’re sick at night or the parent who sacrifices their own ego needs to build up their children and be there for them…it’s the person who sits with their friend in the hospital while they get their chemo treatments. These are the real celebrities of this world.

Faux celebrity status does not actually feed the soul or make us feel good about ourselves. It does not make us better human beings. it does not bring contentment, peace and a higher sense of being. It just brings a false and temporary hit to the ego. I find those who seek faux celebrity status are actually very lonely, insecure and unhappy people. Being a real celebrity, even if you are never recognized, takes hard work, strength of character and a sincere and relentless striving to be a good human being – no “selfies,” no accolades, no “likes”…just the peace, contentment and self esteem that comes with the knowledge that you are the best version of yourself you can be.

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